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It gets lonesome; but so disgusted with dating at my age.
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Submitted by l.comdasani041
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I am a Grandma to 7, divorced for 4 years; married for 31 years. 1 sour relationship since lasted almost 2 years. I just do not have what men are looking for, I guess. Maybe I am not looking for a man; so unsure what direction to take. So many on-line are dishonest and just really not for me. I hate the night club stuff.
Do I want to spend the rest of my life enjoying time to myself or continue to find someone I can finally trust. There are no men that seem to find me interesting in our church. I spend time at the pool, they only look at the skinny young girls.
I am a home body but would kind of like to have a real buddy. Advice, suggestions, whatever.
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I don't know how old you are, but I'm 44 and I was divorced after 17 years of marriage at 35. I've had four serious relationships in 9 years. They all wanted someone else. They all wanted someone who was ready.
I didn't know this all along, but eventually it was clear. First, if you're at the pool and every man there is looking for a young thing in a small bikini and you're uncomfortable with that, it isn't that YOU are not what they are looking for. It's that the men you are looking for are not there. Move on.
Stop looking for love. It'll find you when you are ready. Start looking for friends and specifically male friends whose company you can enjoy. You'll find them everywhere. I joined a choir. I got involved in my church council. I got involved with other groups.
Men who are looking for someone else will eventually cheat and find something else. Wait for the men who are looking for someone like you. They are out there and you deserve that.
There is also something to be said for learning to enjoy yourself and your company. Invest in yourself--new makeup, classes that interest you--and build a life that isn't dependent on having a man. The right man will find that interesting!
Good luck!!!!
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Don't get discouraged! I think when you're looking for love you won't find it as easily. Just keeping doing the things you enjoy and perhaps a fellah will share the same interests, then things may happen. When you try to force yourself into a relationship it often doesn't end well.
You said you're a homebody, but you'll still go out and do things you like doing, then who knows maybe one day you'll come across a guy who's a homebody doing the thing that he likes doing.
On a different note, have you tried Lavalife? I've had a few friends meet some pretty cool guys through it. I always thought it'd be a typical meat market dating service, but from their stories they've met several down-to-earth successful men. I'm actually amazed at the amount of people I know who have met through this service and are still dating!
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