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HELP ME PEOPLE!
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Submitted by xchristinax
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I am 13, and my sister is 12. She is extremely over-sensitive, though she denies it. Every time for example, she needs me to help her pick an outfit and she picks out something I don't like, I go quiet, she goes, "You don't like it!" when I protest she won't listen. When a friend says later on "I like that outfit you should have worn it", she'll say "Well I'm not allowed to." Then give me a snidey look. I'll protest and say she's over-sensitive, she takes a flake and goes all grumpy and then she'll go away crying and then the friend (who is friends with both of us) goes off to calm her down and doesn't listen to what I have to say.
Then when my bitch of a mother and my dad get involved, they take my sisters side and start shouting at me. I am on the verge of being suicidal b/c no-one understands, nor cares about how I feel of having everyone gang up on me all the time. It's hard 2 understand this problem b/c I'm not really explaining this properly, but please help.
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would it be too difficult to tell it looks nice, this will help your relationship
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Next time your sister askes for your advice on little things like outfits and what-not, just don't give it to her. Tell her that she is a big girl and can make her own dissicions. She will probably get mad at you for not helping her, but she will get over it.
By letting her make her own decisions then bypasses all that extra drama that you go through when you DO give your advice to her.
You won't have to hear her snide remarks, you won't have to have to listen to your parents shouting at you....etc.
I've learned that as you grow up, the best thing that i've done, was to just listen to what my parents said as they were yelling at me.....dont' really say much, just listen to what they have to say.....the more you say/argue the longer the shouting goes on.....then the next day or so, just sit down with your mom or dad alone and just talk with them about it CALMLY.....the calmer you can keep yourself the better that conversation will be......because in the heat of the argument, no one wants to listen to anyone....thats why if you wait a bit calm down, and if it still bothers you, go talk to your parents about how you are feeling.....
hope any of that helped.
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I went thru something very similar to that...don't listen to it...it doesn't matter. Don't help your sister anymore...don't give her any feedback. Keep telling her it's her choice because she lives with it and that you won't give her an answer unless she can except it.
But still don't...all this will blow over...just put your attention to other things. Forget your parents yelling at you...don't respond, don't feed into it...it will blow over trust me.
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