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Being lied to too many times.....

Submitted by Mezzie

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Lol, I need to rant. My 'boyfriend', I guess he should be called that, is always breaking up with me and trying to get back together. The problem is that he is always lying to me, and it started when he lied about looking at porn.

Porn has never been an issue with me, but it has now become one, because he won't tell me anything about it and I can't help feeling that he is keeping things from me still. Ever since I walked in on him looking at it, after he said that he wasn't, then again when I caught him again, I don't know what to do. I really don't want this to be an issue for me, but it has actually become a big part of my worrying.

I like the guy, I really do, and it has been over two years on and off, but I don't think I can ever tust him again.

It isn't just lying about the porn, it's the whole thing, but for me, it annoys me when the porn is brought up.

Anyone got any advice? I really need it lol, am hoping that somebody else has had these issues before and has some good advice on how to get through it. Either that or I should stop seeing him, because trust is such a big part of any relationship, and he has broken it so many times...

PLEASE HELP!!

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can be normal

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Wed May 03 2006 by vonski
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if you are willing to do this, watch it with him. tell him you want to share this with him. Put on a DVD in front of him. If he is unwilling to share this with you then make your decision on whether it is worth it.

Maybe he's too embarrassed to share with you. Maybe it might make him jealous if he knows the 'dick' on the screen is arousing you. Or maybe he's afraid you'll be jealous. ask

rambling

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Sat Apr 22 2006 by krestylz
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This same issue happend to me and my boyfriend about 4 months ago. I walked in on him a couple times and found the videos in the vcr and such..... it annoyed for another reason though, i was wanting to fool around but by the time i got off work he was too tired and had already done his thing.

basically i told him that honesty is the best policy. with out that there isn't much of a relationship. honesty and trust is the foundation of any relationship....i told him i wasn't expecting to report to me any time he watched the stuff but if i confronted him about it, i didn't want him to lie about it...we are both adults and its nothing to be ashamed of.... i had to make him understand that its not that he is watching porn that bothers me , but the fact that he was continueing to hide something so little, which was putting stress on our relationship and making us argue...which in the end all he had to do was say ya i watched it and then the converstaion would be over.

so now the porn thing isn't an issue....if i ask him about it , i ask him in a joking manner so he doesn't feel on guard. or if i watch porn, i'll mention a scene i liked, which i think turns him on in a way..... basically we are more open about it all now....guys are sensitive, even though they don't show it, if you make them feel like they are doing something wrong or bad they are going to be on guard....

hope all my rambling on helps you at all lol!

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